Host and Guest – Express Urdu

This is years old. I was invited to a gentleman’s house in Islamabad. Three old friends had come to me that day. I took them with me and reached the host’s house. Gone but I don’t understand the reason. We Punjabis have been doing this for centuries.

We don’t go anywhere alone, wherever we go we take two or four people with us and our hosts are mentally prepared for it. Yes, there are often uninvited guests and each guest brings two or four additional guests with them.

Even at a funeral, there are more people at a meal than at a funeral, although this is normal for us, but my host was not aware of this behavior of Punjabis, so it became clear, but when we entered, at that time, the host I understood the problem. There were already four people sitting on his dining table. He had also invited four of his friends that day. Six people could sit on the table. One was himself, the other was me, and the other four were were friends of

There were also six pots of tea on the table and I had also brought three people with me and thus we were nine in total so there was a crisis.” So we were forced to vacate the table. We sat on the table while he wretchedly grabbed a stool and fit right and left. Anyway, long story short, the meeting turned into a crisis. We could not talk about anything. The host could stay.

The second incident of my life is even more horrible than this. A gentleman from Karachi was my fan. He was a poor poor person. Din agreed to keep his heart. He had come to Islamabad. He invited me to a restaurant and this time I took two men with me. When we reached the restaurant, the gentleman asked one of his friends. What was invited? He only had a budget for three people while we went to five.

I wasn’t very bold and polite back then, otherwise I would have eased her tension by giving the bill.’If I make this mistake today, I become the host as soon as I enter the restaurant and tell the waiter at the very beginning. The bill is to be taken from me’ I also inform the host and even if he is a billionaire, I don’t let him give the bill, but at that time I had an understanding of these nuances and I didn’t have enough courage, so I paid the bill that day. He was upset when he saw the poor bill and he mixed the money with his friend and I am still ashamed of my stupidity. The same thing happened to me one day, it was 20 years ago.

I invited five different people to dinner and fourteen people arrived. The restaurant was fully booked so we had to leave the table and wait for half an hour for the big table. At that time, I didn’t even have a credit card and I didn’t even have a driver, so I was looking left and right in deep trouble and I couldn’t understand what any of my guests were saying. Explained ‘he was a good man’ he helped me and I paid his bill the next day.

I made a rule in life after these incidents ‘if I am invited somewhere, I go alone and if I need to bring someone along, I first ask permission from the host and let him know my partner’s profile and come along. Explaining the reason’ this saves me the embarrassment of the host and the person accompanying me. There will be someone with you too” This makes it easier for me to put food and tea on the table.

If the guests are coming at meal time, I also invite them for lunch and dinner. eat ‘No one likes salt and pepper’ Some avoid sweets and some are allergic to sour foods ‘Some people eat desi food and some like to eat porcine food’ Now a days guests can eat from restaurants as per their choice. Can also be ordered, but there is no harm in asking, ‘A friend of mine is smarter than me’, they tell the guest instead of asking.

I have big good fish or good meat and good vegetables and my cook makes so-and-so dish very well ‘what would you like’ the guest now has three or four options ‘he selects one of them’ I also learned with time that when a person invites you, arrive on time. He may have some other busy schedule or if he has invited you to a restaurant, the restaurant has fixed the meal time. Someone else’s booking after us’ is an old friend of mine.

Javed Iqbal ‘These are cartoonists’ have been making cartoons for Jang newspaper for 40 years’ I learned a surprising thing from them ‘Whenever they come to me’ they tell the time of their departure along with their arrival’ They tell me that I will come to you at 2:30 and leave at 3:30. After that, I am busy somewhere and they also tell me what they will eat and drink. ‘The host reschedules his schedule and secondly he can arrange tea and food of his choice’ saving time and food wastage.

Tons of food is wasted in our homes every day in the name of hospitality, women fry and cook food all day long and guests sometimes go back without touching them and thus waste food, energy and time. “This innovation is common in restaurants. We order unnecessary food and the food ends up in dustbins. And this is happening in a country where 60% of the population lives below the poverty line. This should not happen.” Even now, following Javed Iqbal, I tell the host first that I will come at such and such a time and go back at such and such a time and only have a cup of tea or green tea and that’s it.

I also learned another thing with time and this was also taught to me by my friends ‘When we go to someone’s house for a feast, we must take some food and tell our guest about it first. I inform eg we are invited for dinner’ we will tell our host you will not prepare a sweet dish ‘we are bringing so and so cake’ kulfi’ kheer or halwa and we will enjoy it together’ There are two advantages – we share the host’s burden and secondly the ladies are spared the hassle of making a suite.

If you like this idea, then you should also take care of one more thing – you should take a large amount of food so that the host’s family can also enjoy it for a couple of days. Leave and the women are left to eat the poor dishes and the last thing you go to the person’s house or office and if he serves you, be sure to thank him, also praise the food and service and his house, office and restaurant. Also of

The restaurant is chosen by the host and the order is given by him so he deserves praise ‘Never find fault with the food’ Neither before nor after ‘It is a very rude act’ Any extras like yogurt during the meal ‘Pickle’ ‘Slice’ ‘Don’t ask for a spoon or a plate’ The host may not have it and he will be embarrassed, so enjoy what is in front of you and praise him openly. This is not hypocrisy. It is called civility and politeness. are