The main guiding principles and rules of child training

In order to make their children the best members of this society, it is very important to give them the best education because these children are the architects of tomorrow and will grow up to take over the running of this society.

If they are successful in fulfilling their responsibilities according to Shariat, then this society will become a cradle of peace and tranquility and the spring of peace will come everywhere, for all of them, education of children is very important.

Importance of education of children

If we want an environment with Islamic values, then we have to train our children along with our reforms, because if we continue to neglect the important responsibilities of training children as a burden and keep children in these environments. If I leave him free, the soul and the devil will make him their instrument, the result of which will be that the storms of selfish desires will keep him wandering in the desert of sins and he will spend the four days of his lifetime creating the hereafter, only in collecting the world. will do

And thus they will reach the edge of the valley of death with a pile of sins. If God’s mercy is involved, then repentance will be possible before death, otherwise, they will leave the world regretting and end up in the pit of the grave.

please think! When the children will not be trained, what role will they be able to play to run the society? What will he who is drowning save others, what will he wake up others who is in a dream, what will he show the way to someone who is on his way to lows? ?

When to start training children

There are a majority of parents who wait for the child to do what he wants when he is a little older and start moral training. Such parents should pay full attention to the education of their children from childhood. Because the early years of his life lay the foundation for the rest of his life and also keep in mind that sustainable buildings can only be built on a strong foundation. Whatever a child learns in his childhood remains firm in his mind for the rest of his life because the mind of a child is like wax. It can be cast in any mold.

A child’s memory is like a blank slate, what is written on it will be preserved for life. A child’s mind is like a fertile soil, it will reap the quality of the seeds it sows.

This is the reason that if he is taught the habit of taking the initiative in greeting from childhood, he will not leave this habit throughout his life. If he is trained to tell the truth, he will be free from lies throughout his life. If he is made accustomed to living according to the Sunnah, he will not only adopt these pure habits himself. Rather, for him, these qualities begin to be transferred to other children who are in his love.

What to teach your children!

Good manners: Parents should encourage their children to treat everyone with good manners because many worldly and hereafter blessings are hidden in it. On the authority of Hazrat Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, Meaning: Good conduct melts away sins as the sun melts snow.

Cleanliness: Parents should encourage their children to be clean. The Holy Prophet (PBUH) said, Meaning: Allah is pure, loves purity, is clean and loves cleanliness, and cleanliness is half of faith. Teach your children different prayers, prayer for eating food, prayer for waking up, prayer for someone in trouble, prayer for loss, etc.

Generosity: Make your children accustomed to charity from childhood. One way of this is to tell them the virtues of charity and give something to a poor person from their hands. The Prophet ﷺ said: A generous person is close to Allah, close to Paradise, close to people and far from Hellfire. A miser is far from Allah, far from Paradise and near to Hell.

Love for worship: Parents should try to inculcate the love of worship in the hearts of their children.

Tawakkal: To characterize your children with the attribute of Tawakkal, make them think that our eyes should not be on the causes, but on the creator of the causes and the cause of the causes or the Lord.

Fear of God: It is very important to have fear of God in our heart to achieve ultimate success. Escape from sins and love of virtues is almost impossible unless a blessing is attained. For this, keep warning your children about the indifference of the Lord Almighty while making them realize the weakness of their bodies and souls.

Honesty: Teach your children honesty at home to prevent them from becoming addicted to dishonesty due to societal influences. The Beloved of Allah, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: He who does not have faith, his religion is not perfect.

Gratitude: Make your children accustomed to gratitude and make them think that whenever we get a blessing, we should thank Allah. It was narrated from Hazrat Sayyiduna Anas that the Holy Prophet ﷺ said: Allah likes that the servant should thank Allah for every mouthful and every sip.

Self-sacrifice: The child should be taught that there is a great reward and reward for sacrificing one’s own needs for the needs of a Muslim. To make the child accustomed to it, make him practice self-sacrifice at different times and ask him to give such and such things of his need to such and such a child. The Prophet (ﷺ) said: Whoever gives what he needs to another, Allah will forgive him.

Patience: The child should be encouraged to be patient with illness, suffering and suffering.

Contentment: Teach your children contentment to be satisfied with whatever they get from God Almighty. He (peace be upon him) said: Contentment is a never-ending treasure.

Importance of time: By making your children realize the importance of time, make them think that wasting time is not the way of the wise.

Self-Esteem: Child’s self-esteem is badly damaged by scolding children unnecessarily. Parents are requested to warn their children about their mistakes, but do not be so strict that they become depressed.

Be kind to neighbors: Teach children to respect elders in neighboring households and be kind to younger children. A person in the service of the Beloved of Allah ﷺ said: O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! How do I know if I did good or bad? He said: When you hear your neighbors saying that you have done good, indeed! You have done good and when you hear it said that you have done bad, indeed! you did bad

Grieving: Also explain to the children that grieving is very important that when you see someone in grief, you should sympathize with them and as far as possible be with them in their grief and pain.

Respect for Elders: Teach your children to respect their elders. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever respects an elderly person because of his age, Allah will appoint someone who will respect him in his old age.”

Literature of teachers and scholars: Parents should teach their children the literature of teachers and scholars. The teacher is the spiritual father and the real father of the body. The Prophet ﷺ said: Get knowledge and learn tolerance and dignity for knowledge and be humble and humble before the one from whom you are getting knowledge.

Humility: In order to save your children from becoming arrogant, teach them the humility to consider every Muslim better than themselves. The Beloved of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: Whoever humbles himself for the sake of Allah, Allah will give him elevation.

Sincerity: Parents make their children think that they should do every lawful work for the pleasure of Allah. The Holy Prophet ﷺ said: Whoever talks about his good deeds among the people, God Almighty will make his hypocrisy known to the people and humiliate him.

Telling the truth: Parents should always encourage their children to tell the truth and avoid lying. The Holy Prophet (PBUH) said: Speaking the truth is good and good leads to heaven, and telling lies is immorality, and immorality leads to hell.

Protect your children from these issues

To question means to beg: To change one’s name means to take a name other than one’s real name. make fun. Bounce the fault. Arrogance means considering yourself superior to others. To lie. backbiting curse theft Hatred Jealousy and stopping communication. To abuse, to break a promise. Prevent children from doing anything that could cause harm to others.

Things to do after birth: In the joy of having a child, do things that disobey Allah, such as playing drums, putting on bangles and making music programs.

Azan in the ear

When a child is born, it is recommended that the Azan and Iqamah be said in his ear, so that the name of Allah and his Beloved ﷺ will reach the child’s ears from the very beginning. In this way, teaching the basic beliefs of Islam to a Muslim child also begins, and the child’s soul is illuminated by the light of Tawheed, and the candle of love for the Prophet ﷺ burns in his heart.

Technique (Ghati): During the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), it was the custom of the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) that when a child was born in their house, they would bring it to the presence of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). Gives what is called technique.

Aqeeqah: The birth of a child brings a message of joy and happiness to its parents and the whole family. It is called Aqeeqah and it is recommended.

Breastfeeding: The mother should breastfeed the child for the entire period. Love the children.

Some reasons and ways to silence the infant’s crying: Hunger. Thirst. Wet clothes. Stomach upset. Boredom. Tooth loss. Lack of sleep. Ear pain.

For the good upbringing of a child, it is very important for his parents to be educated and trained, i.e. have worldly and hereafter knowledge. A child’s upbringing depends on the mother. Because the baby stays with the mother for large parts of the day. So the mother has more responsibility to train her child well. That is why it is said that the mother’s lap is the child’s first education. If today’s mothers knew their responsibilities, no child would be disobedient and wicked.

We think that when a child is born, from that time he does not need training, but it is not at all, whatever we say, the child remembers all the words and when he starts to speak, he He would repeat what he had been hearing since day one. A good mother is very important for good training because a child learns everything from a mother.