Stable married life, but how!

Marriage is a clear sign of chastity and purity, it is the best means of protection from calamities, it is the cause of fulfillment of faith, marriage is the pure relationship that gives birth to a man and a woman in one marriage, and promotes love and affection between them. Gives.

Marriage is not only a union of a man and a woman, but also a union of two families. It is not only a relationship between a husband and a wife, but a relationship between the members of two families. After the pure relationship of marriage is established, husband and wife become each other’s helpers and helpers, share in each other’s happiness and sorrow, and if the married life is built on Islamic principles, then both two bodies become one soul. go

The disposition of Islamic Shari’ah is that when a man and a woman enter into a marriage relationship, this relationship should be strong and stable, based on love, compassion and mutual cooperation, and this relationship should not be limited to one or two months or one or two years. Be it permanent and eternal, for this reason, Islam has given special instructions to the spouses to maintain the pure relationship of marriage and fill it with love and affection.

Husband and wife have assigned certain rights regarding their partner, if they are ensured and the principles of Shariat are taken into consideration in the journey of married life, the relationship of marriage becomes more durable and stable. , and each of the husband and wife proves to be a sincere friend to the other, and if the instructions of the Sharia are neglected and careless, laziness, neglect, indifference and indolence are shown in the payment of conjugal rights, then the spouse The life of each of the wives becomes bitter and unpleasant, and at every turn of life the two prove to be rivals for each other’s best friend. But on the other hand, both are always together.

Opportunities for mixing and cohabitation are always available, so the moral weaknesses of each other are also exposed to them, due to which complaints are inevitable, mutual resentment and estrangement between spouses is a natural thing. Yes, this is not a bad thing nor is it against the intention of the Shariat, however, in such a case, the guardians of the husband and wife need to play a serious and responsible role, such a strong role that does not involve temporary anger, boiling excitement of emotions. be

Actions should not be taken with nepotism and partiality, rather, such a role is required from the guardians and those in charge, in which there is an unbiased analysis of the facts, a beautiful combination of glass and iron, a sense of responsibility with love and compassion. Yes, there should be courage to defeat and give up, when the guardians are serious about removing the mutual resentment and resentment of the spouses and redressing their mutual grievances, and trying to solve their problems impartially. If you do this, the marital life of the husband and wife will live in a happy atmosphere, and many marital relationships that end in divorce due to trivial matters will also decrease to the desired extent, as well as divorce and separation and marital disputes. Due to disagreements, which are going around the police stations and courtrooms these days, and getting a chance to laugh, they will also be stopped.

The Prophet’s era, which was an ideal and brilliant era for Muslims, where Islamic society was based on noble qualities and high morals, pure qualities such as love and compassion, selflessness and generosity, and sincerity and adaptability, were an integral part of civil society. There was no past of enmity, enmity, jealousy and rivalry, in which the marital relationship was an unbreakable and strong bond, where the marital relationship was a manifestation of love and affection and selfless relationship and intimacy.

Where men and women used to prove to be sincere companions of life after joining in marriage, which was a pure society filled with great wealth of peace and contentment. Set the direction, for only the memories of the past spring are capable of stimulating growth in the plants of our autumn lawns, and the imprints hidden in the mists of the past can show us the way to the future.

Guardians should teach their girls that it is your duty to comfort the husband when he is upset and similarly, if the husband has committed adultery, he should apologize to his wife. When divorce occurs between the spouses, it is the duty of the guardians to immediately try to reconcile the spouses, and to ensure the restoration of the marital life of the couple, when the problem is left as it is, and If it is postponed for a later time, it can sometimes lead to great losses.

Just as a small spark is left to burn and is neglected, then in no time the same spark becomes a flame, and burns everything around it to ashes, so does A wife who is always with him, everyone’s peace of mind is connected with his life partner.

If for some reason there is a grudge between them, and the guardians ignore it, and do not make a serious effort to solve it immediately, then big problems can arise in the future, which can be easily solved. Sometimes it is not possible.

The incident of Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr bin As is a great lesson for us. My father took special care of his daughter-in-law, once he asked daughter-in-law how is your husband? How does he treat you?

Daughter-in-law said: Very good men, do not come to bed, and do not pay matrimonial rights. Hazrat Abdullah says that when my father heard this complaint about me, he scolded me a lot, and said that I have married you to a respectable woman, and you do not pay the rights of marriage, when his punishment and warning It did not have any effect on me, so he complained about me to the Messenger of Allah, may God bless him and grant him peace, and explained my attitude towards his wife to the Messenger of Allah, may God bless him and grant him peace. He called me and said: I It has been reported that you fast continuously during the day, and pray throughout the night. I said: This information is correct.

The Prophet ﷺ said: Fast some days and do not fast some days. You have a right over you, your wife also has a right over you, and guests also have a right over you. (Musand Ahmad)

In the above incident, there is a message for the guardians that it is not right to refrain from educating the children even after the marriage of the children. , but where it is the responsibility of the guardians to select a pious spouse for the boy and girl, and to marry them as soon as they reach marriageable age.

Similarly, it is also the responsibility to monitor the married life after marriage, and make the spouses bound to perform mutual duties, and the monitoring of the marital life of the spouses should be on a correct and fair basis, if the guardian feels that If my boy or girl is making a mistake, my child or my girl is proving to be deficient in paying the rights, then it is not right to ignore it and keep silent about it.

Rather, with love and benevolence, the boy or girl should be warned about his mistake, and he should be encouraged to reform, if the guardian feels that my admonition has not benefited the boy or girl enough. , and if he persists in his previous behavior, then he should consult a reliable religious scholar or a person who understands the matter, and try to improve the situation, as Hazrat Amr bin As explained to his son. reported their actions to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and requested their correction.

In today’s age, marital disputes are happening day by day, husband and wife have grudges and grudges, accusations are made against each other, such cases are registered in police stations, long legal battles are fought for it. are fought, due to which, on the one hand, distances are created in the families, sparks of hatred and enmity are ignited, on the other hand, the morals of the new generation are also affected in such an unpleasant environment.

There is criminal negligence in the education and training of the new generation. Obviously, while there are many causes and factors, one of the main and important reasons is the criminal negligence of the guardians and those in charge. Guardians should realize their responsibilities, and try to fulfill them, keep a close eye on their children even after marriage, and oblige them to pay the rights of their spouses, then, God willing, he will be righteous and happy. A prosperous society will emerge, which will be the cradle of peace and contentment and China.